I should marry a man who loves me more than I love him.

Love is hard. Relationships are hard. We do not always get what we want and often, a burning passion is not enough to make a relationship work. 

Somehow, along the way, we grew up and so did our ideas of love. When we were young and reckless, we thought love had to be the kind that encompassed great passion and had to be highly dramatic and we were all entranced with the idea of “as long as we love each other, everything will be fine”. Things change…and suddenly passion was no longer desired but the feeling of security was.

When I was younger, I told myself that I would not be like my parents and that I would marry for love. Now that I am older (and hopefully wiser), I realize that what I really want is a marriage like my parents; One where we are comfortable with each other and learn to love each other more each day. A relationship that starts at the peak with an all-consuming passion has a higher risk of burning out quickly. It is my belief that a relationship that starts on a strong foundation of moderate love, mutual respect, shared beliefs and tolerance has a greater potential of growing better each day…

As the saying goes..

I love you more today than I did yesterday, but not as much as tomorrow.